Secret Girl
A Memoir
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5.0 • 6 Ratings
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- $11.99
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- $11.99
Publisher Description
For decades, a well-to-do Baltimore family guarded a secret too painful to reveal, much less speak of among themselves. For one daughter, that secret would haunt her for years but ultimately compel her to take surprising risks and reap unbelievable rewards--the story of which forms the stunning narrative of this remarkable memoir.
When Molly Bruce Jacobs, the family's eldest daughter, finds herself newly sober at the age of thirty-eight, she finally seeks out and comes face-to-face with this secret: Anne, a younger sister who was diagnosed at birth with hydrocephalus ("water on the brain") and mental retardation, then institutionalized. Anne has never been home to visit, and Jacobs has never seen her. Full of trepidation, Jacobs goes to meet her sister for the first time. As the book unfilds and the sisters grow close, Jacobs learns of the decades of life not shared, and gains surprising insights about herself, including why she drank for most of her adult life. In addition, she gradually comes to understand that her parents' reasons for placing Anne in an institution were far more complex than she'd ever imagined.
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A former Baltimore lawyer writes poignantly of her life-altering decision to meet her retarded sister for the first time. Although she'd known about her younger sister since she was 13, Jacobs never met Anne (incarcerated for most of her life in a state hospital) until the two were in their 30s. Born a twin in 1957 and afflicted with hydrocephalus ("water on the brain"), Anne was instantly hidden away in a private nursing home by her wealthy, status-conscious parents, who worried about the retarded child's effect on her twin, and also on her older sister, Molly (called Brucie). Although Anne's condition stabilized, the parents still refused to bring her home or visit her. Hoping to redirect her own life after derailment by alcoholism and divorce, author Jacobs, the mother of two sons, explores the factors that persuaded her to finally meet Anne in the early 1990s. Throughout the memoir, Jacobs faces the painful, cruel evidence of her family's neglect and denial. Knowing Anne revives for Jacobs a youthful enthusiasm and spontaneity. Anne becomes for the author her "vital counterpart": "She had what the world I grew up in had suppressed in me." Painful secrets are brought to light in this rueful, honest account.
