Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce? And When Can I Get a Hamster?
A Guide to Parenting Through Divorce
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Publisher Description
Definitive advice from the author of the bestselling "Get out of my life".
Divorce, argues Anthony E. Wolf, does not have to do long-term damage to a child. In his groundbreaking new book, he shows parents how to steer children through the pain and the complex feelings engendered by divorce, feelings that, if not resolved, can create continuing problems for a child. Wolf also explains how to deal with the difficult issues that so frequently accompany a divorce. How do you tell your child about the divorce? How do you keep your children from being caught between you and your ex-partner? What do you do if that other parent gradually fades out of their lives? Or, how do you maintain strong ties with your children if you are not the primary custodial parent? How do you help them cope with new living arrangements, as well as stepparents or stepsiblings?
"Why did you have to get a divorce?" is filled with stories that parents will recognize with relief. Positive, at times even funny, and, above all, effective, this guide will speak directly to divorcing and divorced parents.
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Every parent going through divorce should have a copy of this book to refer to often. Wolf, a Connecticut psychologist, covers a full range of sticky situations, telling the kids about the divorce, dealing with an undependable ex-spouse, or coping as a noncustodial parent. Following the formula established in his first book on child-rearing, "Get Out of My Life, but First Could You Take Me and Cheryl to the Mall?" (1991), Wolf intersperses incisive analysis with clear-cut advice and, best of all, slice-of-life dialogue scripts that spell out fruitful as well as unproductive ways to respond to common intrafamilial conflicts. The chapter "Rules for You, Your Kids, and Your Partner" gives a concise blueprint for behavior when a stepparent enters the picture. Throughout, Wolf stresses that children must above all feel safe and loved, and that parents' first concern should be for their children's emotional well-being, which can mean stifling unpleasant remarks about one's ex, no matter how warranted such observations may be. "Divorce or not," he sums up, "success in parenting comes with your doing the best possible job that you can during the time that you are with your kids." Wolf's wise and specific counsel should help improve the success rate considerably.
